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Ten facts about the Erogenous Zones

First-class lovers can find the erogenous zones perfectly well without a compass and a map and skillfully make use of these supersensitive tools in sexual games. Would you like to master this skill?

It is not difficult at all: you just have to listen to your body and watch your partner’s reaction carefully – and that’s it, you’ll do everything right. If a woman has no desire to find out where her husband’s erogenous zones are and the husband is sure that he is an expert in sex and does nothing but kiss his wife’s lips and stroke her breasts, then the sexual life of this couple is far from perfect. And it will remain the same until the partners decide to change it, awakening their most responsive and sensitive body parts to pleasure.

1. There are lots of sensitive zones. The initial erogenous zones are the most responsive to sexual stimulation. They may be divided into two groups.

  •  Erogenous zones placed where skin is the most sensitive: the mouth, the earlobe, the nipples, the underarms, the inner surface of the shoulders and forearms, on the outer genitals, the backbone region, on the neck, around the navel, where the pubic hair begins, in the entire genital region, on the inner surface of the hips, in the crook of the elbows, behind the knees, on the feet, between the fingers and toes.
  • Erogenous zones placed where skin verges on mucous membrane: lips reddening contours, nostrils’ edges, vulvar lips, anal region, surface of the vagina, head of the penis. Stroke them and your partner’s reaction will tell you which of them are the most sensitive. If there was no result from stimulating this or that zone, “work” with the others and you will definitely find out those delicate, responsive places that should be caressed.

2. You have found them? Now wake them up! Erogenous zones form a kind of map of the body, a map that should be carefully studied by the partner. One woman may have supersensitive breasts, another may hardly react to a touch there. One woman likes to be caressed for a long time, beginning with her head and then all the way down to her feet before she is ready for sex; another just needs her fingers to be kissed – and that’s it; she is trembling impatiently. It depends on the individual.

To achieve the best results in the art of stimulation, the partner should know the most sensitive zones and, each time, use different kinds of caresses to determine their sensitivity. This is possible only if you are patient and sensitive to your partner. Skilled caressing is a real strength: even a frigid woman may become a passionate partner and a man can become a great lover.

3. Men and women have different erogenous zones. A man’s tactile sensitivity is limited to his genital region, the mouth and ears. Their erogenous zones are also breeches and loin regions, shoulders and cervical spine, back of the head, eye area, underarms, inner surface of hips, nipples.

  • Stroking, kissing and tickling these regions with the tongue will help to reveal the man’s temperament to the fullest.
  • Some men become very excited while being scratched or bitten a bit just prior to orgasm.
  • Caressing the region between the anus and the scrotum gives great pleasure to a man.
  • Scrotal skin is very sensitive: it is responsive to gentle touching and stroking.
  • The main erogenous zone is the penis, especially its head and the side, where tissue connecting the foreskin with the head is located.

We may say that the whole woman’s body is an erogenous zone itself. The belly, back, neck, elbows, shoulders, wrists, knees, ankles -- everything is responsive to caressing. If some zones are “out of order,” their sensitivity can be developed.

Erogenous zone number one is the vulvar region, the large and small vulvar lips, clitoris and the region around it. By stimulating them skillfully, the partner will give you more pleasure than during the sexual intercourse.

The breasts are also a significant zone. It is enough just to touch your beloved or even think of him to make your breasts lifted and enlarged a bit, as if giving you a signal of excitement. Caressing the breasts not only turns a woman on, but also helps her genitals to be ready for sex.

4. The brain also can be called an erogenous zone. We feel intense erotic sensations because of our brains. It gives rise to strong feelings, which are the reaction to messages from the erogenous zones.

5. You can find more erogenous zones if you try. The search for sensitive parts of your partner’s body is fascinating and useful for mutual understanding. But you can do even more and begin to create so-called “secondary zones.” They are of great significance, because they are associated with sexual stimulation. Let’s suppose your husband strokes your loins each time after you have an orgasm. These strokes may cause particular associations in your mind, and your loins will become your secondary erogenous zone; touching them will turn you on immediately.

6. You should be in the mood for caressing. If you feel a little squeamish when your partner is stroking some parts of your body, or if it causes some inner resistance, then erogenous zone stimulation won’t give you any pleasure, but will only make the process painful. If you caress you partner feeling only dislike or disgust, this won’t do either. Only letting your partner caress you, but remaining unemotional, is not good either.

7. Age means a lot. The role of erogenous zones increases as you become older. A man cannot get excited after the ages of 35-40 as quickly as he could when he was 18. He needs different kinds of stimulation to start feeling excited, including direct stimulation of the genitals. His sexual life will be all right if his partner is active and creative. But it is late to begin searching for erogenous zones when a man is already 40. And a man himself will resist; earlier, he was able to become excited so easily and now, all of a sudden, he is treated (stroked) like a girl. Therefore, your man’s erogenous zones should be found by you at the very beginning of your living together.

As for women, their sensitivity won’t be revealed without skilful erogenous zone stimulation. If your partner is an expert lover, you are lucky. If not, try to make him an expert, encouraging him tactfully in the right direction.

8. Do not be a bore! Sexual stimulation should be interrupted; otherwise you won’t excite your partner -- you will put him to sleep.

  • First, stroke man’s buttocks, then slap them; blow a thin stream of cool air on his penis, and then breathe warm air on it; massage his back slightly and scratch it with your nails at the same time.
  • If your partner is unaware of the principle of interruption, let him know about it. Otherwise he won’t be able to excite you effectively.
  • As a rule, rough and intense caressing suppresses, but does not increase, a woman’s sensitivity. But there are exceptions: in this case, pinching and slapping are required.
  • The clitoris, head of the penis and testicles are very sensitive and cannot bear being touched roughly.
  • Erogenous zones can be stimulated even when the lovers are dressed. Such an erotic game is called “petting” and it is good if a woman is pregnant, if one of the partners is ill or when sex with penetration is prohibited or impossible.

9. You may work not only with your hands. Erogenous zones can be caressed not only with hands. To increase the effect, caress them with your lips, tongue and teeth.

  • You can stimulate a man’s erogenous zones with your nipples, toes, hair.
  • Your partner would like you to squeeze his penis between your breasts and then lift and lower them with your hands.
  • You are sure to enjoy your partner’s caressing your nipples or your clitoris with his penis.
  • Experiment with a silk scarf: running it over the perineum you will excite your partner rather delicately and effectively.
  • A vibrator can be used for the stimulation of your erogenous zones. Men do not like such toys as a rule, but you may want to try it.

10. Don’t move?! In Victorian times, married Englishwomen did their best not to give into passion and even excitement. They even had their motto: “Ladies do not move!” The inspiration for a sexual strike was very proud of the fact that she could conceive nine children and had no pleasure, no orgasms. It was achieved by her willpower.

And why did she taunt herself this way? Expert, Nadia Dabaeva, Bachelor of Medicine and sexology-consultant of the “Diod” Medical Center, explains how to get more pleasure from sex. How to get more from sex? How to excite your partner? How to reach orgasm? We look for answers in different books on “sex techniques,” learning about the erogenous zones. It seems to us that knowing their locations, we can pass a sex exam with an excellent grade. In fact, our pleasure depends not so much on the stimulation technique, but on our desire to have sex and our passion for our partner. There is no direct connection between caressing and excitement. Stimulation of an erogenous zone sends an impulse to the brain and only then to the hypophysis - the main sexual gland. If a woman does want to have sex with her partner, her mind can block the tactile impulses, not allowing them to reach the hypophysis. The so-called “turning-off” of an erogenous zone occurs. And vice verse -- two people in love will love every caress and every touch. Sensitive parts of the body are individual and may change throughout life (for example, because of a new partner). Of course it is useful to read a book about sex technique, but the main thing is to communicate with your partner! Spend more time caressing each other, do not think of doing everything “the right way” and tell each other about your feelings and sensations.

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