Menu Style




Pregnancy, the fun needn’t stop!

Your body’s changing and one of these days you’re going to be a mom. Does this mean that things in the bedroom are going to change? Yes, they will... but for the better! Many women experience an increased sexual drive during this time, and use pregnancy to build up good memories together with their partner. If this is not the case with you, remember it’s only temporary!
The reason you have your belly standing where it is, is because of all the fun the bedroom... but does pregnancy really mean 9 months with no sex? Definitely not. The chances are good that it’s going to be an extra busy time!

Many women feel more attractive and daring during pregnancy. In others the changing hormones mean a new twinkle in their eye that keeps hubby busy between the sheets.  Other women say that their sex drive comes and goes in this time.

First trimester (week 1 to 12)
This is the best of times and the worst of times. The excitement over the new life that is growing inside you competes with those well known early pregnancy symptoms of moodiness and insecurity over the unknown to come. Tiredness, nausea, sensitive breasts and the feeling of needing to go to the bathroom often, can all contribute to you losing interest in sex. This however doesn’t count for everybody.

If the reality of what’s growing inside of you has already hit him, then hubby may want to treat you like a precious gift, this’ll naturally warm your heart. You can have a truly close bond during this time and can all help to bring you physically closer.

It’s now that you no longer have to be concerned with falling pregnant (too late for that one!)that you can be totally spontaneous. This alone can already be a great inspiration for many couples.

Sex during pregnancy can also create huge misunderstandings. You may feel sexier than ever, but feel afraid that your partner thinks your larger body is unattractive and that he won’t like you anymore. He, on the other hand might find your round belly irresistible, but is worried that you may feel unattractive or horrible. The solution: communication.

Second trimester (weeks 13 to 25)
The bad news is that your favourite denim most likely won’t fit you anymore and you’ll have to invest in a pretty circus tent dress and a comfortable Obelix pair of pants! The good news is that many women find that their sex drive is at its most intense in this trimester. Considerably most blood flows through the vagina and reproductive organs, which can cause you to be more aware of your sensuality than normal. For some lucky ladies it means this heightened blood flow means they orgasm easier – sometimes even more than once.

Your bigger breasts and more rounded figure can also make you feel more sexy and attractive.

Most of those nasty pregnancy symptoms are also hopefully a thing of the past and that will give you more energy and encouragement to share this precious time with your hubby.  Your belly is getting bigger, but is still small enough to have comfortable sex.

Doctors suggested that if you are going to have oral sex during this time, your partner must be careful not to blow air into your vagina. There is a slight chance that bubbles can develop in your blood vessels, which is dangerous for you and the baby.

Third trimester (weeks 26 to 40)
As long as there are no complications with the pregnancy, it’s still safe to have sex. Some couples still do it only hours before the baby is born. The baby is safe in his placenta and water, surrounded by a uterus with strong muscles (the human version of a Volvo with five star NCAP-rating). A solid mucous plug prevents infections etc from reaching the baby.
The things that may stand in the way of having an exciting sex life, is that you may not be in the mood as a result of the tiredness and uncomfortable feeling. Your uncomfortably big belly and excitement over the baby’s arrival can let your enthusiasm over sex dwindle or disappear.

If you are both uncomfortable with the idea of sex while you’re pregnant, remember there are other ways still to be intimate with your partner!

There are people that believe that sex and nipple stimulation help to induce labour. Your body then releases oxytocin, the hormone that causes contractions to start. Semen contains prostaglandins that make the cervix “ripe” or soft, so it can prepare for the baby’s arrival.

Here are a few ideas for sex positions during pregnancy:

  • Sit on top of your man. It will take the pressure off of your stomach, and you’ll have better control of the depth and tempo of penetration.
  • Lie on your back with your knees pulled up to your chest, your partner can then sits in front of you on his knees and penetrates you. Put a cushion under your back if it’ll be more comfortable.
  • Spooning: this is a popular position in the last part of pregnancy. Only shallow penetration is possible and there is no pressure on your stomach.
  • On hands and knees: You can support your stomach and breasts with a cushion.

Additional sources:;;;